Below, not on our terrace, sadly, but I've been seeing so many snowdrops while out running, and I often use them as an excuse to stop. . . .
that post yet, or if you haven't had a chance to read through all the comments, I'm happy to keep hosting a chat there for the moment. And before I move to another, separate post as follow-up, perhaps I could ask you to think a bit about What You're Hoping For from your Retirement -- and perhaps why you've had to put that off until now. . . I guess what I'm wondering about is just how much transformation is possible at the age when retirement generally happens. How much continuity are you planning on? Or how much have you experienced?
I suppose the reason I'm plucking this thread out of Friday's tangle is that I often read a push here in some readers' comments, for me to be different than I am. I do think that it's worthwhile to examine choices and patterns and to be open to change -- a brief survey of this blog will testify to my willingness to be self-reflexive, sometimes to the point of exhaustion, if not boredom! But the selves we bring to Retirement are the same selves we moved through the WorkPlace. In an ideal world, quite honestly, if I had time and energy in astonishing abundance, I would still be working because I loved so much of my job (in that ideal world, of course, constant cutbacks and odious politics would have disappeared). But I have always been a bit of a magpie in my interests, and I chose to have four children, and there are still only twenty-four hours on the day's clock. . .
Your Mileage May Vary. I think that's what I most want to honour here, that we will all approach Retirement differently. Some degree of Selfishness, after a lifetime that, for some, seemed not to allow that possibility, might finally be claimed -- speak up, as Giulia did, those of you who think this is the most important message for your Retirement. Some of us learned this value earlier than others -- I had to be fairly Selfish, for example, to go back to finish my BA, then earn graduate degrees, while still raising kids -- and for those folk, Retirement might be a chance to take the Career (or whatever) blinders off and attend to domestic pleasures and even obligations that had to be sacrificed along the way.
As for me, this week I'm "selfishly" heading to a two-day Drawing Course in my old stomping grounds, and folding in some visits with friends and a visit to my son's family. I have a light post ready to publish later (me in spring colours!) and I'll be reading your comments, but extended thinking about, well, anything, will probably be delayed. (As usual, I'll probably post on Instagram in between.)
In the meantime, the mic's all yours. Let's talk about Spring Gardens or Retirement Plans or The Value of Selfishness or whatever connections you wish to make. Thank you in advance. . . .